Saturday, December 29
Funny story- we were walking through the MSC area heading toward the stadium, and the crowd was thick. I have my hair back and my sunglasses on, I think I had Jack in my sling but I don't remember. I do know that Ryan had Beth and Luke with him. So I'm walking through the crowd (sort of alone since Ryan is about 30 feet ahead of me) and a woman stops me and asks if I'm Michael's sister. I say yes, I have a brother named Michael, then she told me that she follows my blog and told me that my kids were sweet and a few other nice things. I have to admit, I was a little flattered but also very weirded out! I know I've always kept my blog public but this was one of those strange times that a person- a very nice person in this instance, luckily- could pick me out of a crowd of thousands!
I've often wondered about making my blog private but on the other hand I've shared things here that I feel are motivating and helpful to other moms who read here. At least that's what I've been told. :-) So for now I'll keep it public...For now...
Just to keep you waiting, here's what I have coming up on my blog...
1. Goodbye Austin
2. From Beth's Point of View
3. An Escape to Jamaica
4. We Like to Work Under Pressure (aka Our New Kitchen!)
6. The Christmas Holiday and All 700 Photos That I Took
7. Beth is 6!
8. Goodbye 2012
Tuesday, December 4
Thursday, November 29
But this little ballerina is growing up...
I've always wanted to let my kids choose what extra activities they want to be in, to support them in their choices but also make sure they're giving each activity a good effort before dropping out and moving on. Of course they're still little, but it was my goal to let them try out a lot of things while they're little so that they have a good idea of what's available to them. As we started this year of ballet, Beth was very excited because she was in class with one of her best friends, and starting class again signaled the end of a long (sort of boring) summer. Not even two weeks into it she started the familiar complaining that plagued us last year- she didn't want to go, she was bored, and it made her throat hurt (???). She'd start complaining over the weekend- every weekend- that she didn't want to go, but once we actually got there she'd have a great time. So we kept it up, partly because I thought she'd outgrow it and partly because I'd made a financial commitment! But it's been something I've been thinking about a lot, and she hasn't stopped complaining about not wanting to go, so we asked her if she wanted to stop. She said YES!
What other option do we have? We can continue to make her go against her wishes, but I don't think that's being very fair or respectful of her autonomy. As I've thought about it more, I've realized how she is driven by results- she wants to learn something new, practice it over and over again until she masters it- then move on to something new. I can't say that's an unfamiliar thing for me! Ballet is not that sort of thing for her- it's the same thing, year after year, and she just has to get better at it. While she's young, and at this studio at least, that's the way it goes. She's just bored.
It's important to us that she be involved in something physical, and since Ryan played soccer during his entire childhood, we are going to pursue a soccer team for her in January. She is INCREDIBLY excited about this, and I think she'll really enjoy it! I am a little sad to leave her ballet studio, her sweet teachers, and the friends we've made, but it's also a huge drive for us every week so I can't say I'll miss everything about it. ;-)
We're talking about other things she can be involved in next semester, and we're considering a few other things like an art class (she adores art), a science class (with her sweet friend), and/or piano lessons. We would love to do everything for her, but these things cost money!!! So we're not quite sure yet what's going to happen.
I took this video of her yesterday. She's been practicing, trying to learn how to do a headstand, for about a month now. She did it.
I'll miss watching her dance at the studio, but I know she'll continue to dance at home! I wonder what she'll think of to try next?
Friday, November 16
|Beth laughed and thought it was funny because they were slimy.|
|Jack refused to put his hand in, completely unexcited about the prospect of getting dirty.|
|Luke tried but was also unimpressed with pulling out those "yucky" seeds.|
So Beth helped Ryan design the pumpkin's face and Ryan did all the carving, as usual. I don't know why they didn't like to get messy- maybe it's because it was on purpose... Because usually they have no problem getting messy on accident!
Here's a pic of me and Ryan at the party, about to embark on a hayride with a bunch of silly kids. :-)
Tuesday, November 13
Wednesday, October 24
Today is your fourth birthday! I have already been thinking of you as a four-year-old for about a month or two now, because recently you've just sort of blossomed into a "bigger" boy. Three years old just seemed to little for you! You are starting to look more like your Daddy to me- which is fun for me to see since I have always though you favored me and your uncles/PawPaw more than Daddy's side. But I see you walk with those looooong legs, and I see how broad your shoulders are... And boy, you can eat! I bet you're going to have a fast metabolism just like your Daddy!
I am so proud of you, and I love the special connection that we have. You are such a sensitive boy, and I embrace that because I know that one day you'll probably act too "grown up" to give your poor mother a hug, so every time you tell me you love me right now I try to take a mental picture and hug you a little bit harder. It's my goal that every time you hug me, I make sure you're the one to let go first. You have a little twinkle in your eye when you walk up to me, and I know you're about to tell me you love me, so I drop down on one knee and open my arms. You are just so sweet! It's times like these when I understand how adults jokingly tell their child to "never grow up," because it's a moment I want to freeze in my memory forever.
You still love your lawn mowers and weed whackers, tractors and backhoes, screwdrivers and drills, and now you love to be a fireman. Mommy and Daddy bought you a fireman backpack for your birthday because we knew you'd love to pretend it was a leaf blower, but you love it as a fireman too! Over the past few months you've been very interested in "school," begging me to do a workbook with you or read you a book. Oh boy, do you love to read! I have read to you for hours on end and you still ask for more. You love all books, but at the library you head straight to pick out Clifford books... You don't know it now, but your Daddy can't stand those Clifford books! He'll read them to you until he's blue in the face though, because he knows that's how much you love them. Daddy likes to make up silly stories while reading, using silly voices, and you love it when he does this. Just another way Daddy makes you laugh!
You've joined a young boy's club (Blue Knights) this year, and you're playing more with the older kids. You jump right into the action, not hesitating to join in on the fun, sometimes not even looking back for me! You love your gymnastics class and to play outside for hours and hours. I love that you recently learned how to pump yourself on the swing! I like to look outside and see you and Beth playing together, swinging next to each other and trying to kick the branches on the tree. You don't always love playing side-by-side with Beth and Jack, but when y'all do you usually have a great time!
You usually still take a nap in the afternoon, though technically Mommy has told you that you don't have to!
I am so proud to be your mama and I am so excited to see how you grow and change even more this year! But I do also sometimes wish you wouldn't grow up anymore... I love you my sweet boy.
And for the rest of us that don't currently have a baby in the house, God has blessed us each in our own individual way. I know that a clean house is nice, but I also know that my number 1 goal is heaven- for me, my husband, and my kids. Sometimes I have to let the house go to remember that goal...Other times I feel like I have to teach my kids responsibility so that they can learn to be responsible adults! It's definitely a balance, and not something I really lose sleep over. These are just more rambling thoughts...
Tuesday, October 16
Sunday, October 14
One of those trips was a special day for Beth and me, when I took her to a ballet performance as part of a field trip with some other members of our homeschool group, then she and I had lunch at a gluten-free restaurant in town. The boys stayed home with Grandma and Grandpa!
Saturday, September 29
Right now Jack is having a major mental growth spurt! He's been a little late of a talker in terms of not meeting the typical speech milestones for his age, though he's kept up with all other developmental milestones. He just didn't form words very well and had a hard time coming up with the right words to say, and has very rarely said two-word combinations. (Who can blame him, he has two very talkative older siblings who have happily talked on his behalf!) He completely understands everything we say to him but just didn't say real words back at us. Until the past two weeks.
Jack started talking in two or three word combinations, saying things incredibly clearly, things I'd never heard him say before! Just yesterday he put his Nuk in his mouth (he sleeps with his pacifier) and popped it out, handed it to me and said, "Yucky. Wash it!" I cracked up laughing because it was so clear and completely new! He heard me talking to someone on the phone the other day, and pulled me down and looked seriously at me and said, "New house?" Since I understood him and explained to him what I was talking about, he now will just randomly say, "New house?" to me. I think he appreciates being able to communicate to me with words and being able to sort of hold a basic conversation.
But wouldn't you know just about as soon as he started talking, he stopped sleeping. He's been waking up between 4:30-5:30 am, climbing out of his crib, and resisting/skipping naps. It hasn't been fun because as my long-time blog readers know, sleep is the hardest part of parenting for me. I am clinging to the fact that these sleep disturbances are part of his growth, and praying that it's just temporary!
We considered putting him into a toddler bed since he was crawling out of his crib and refusing to sleep. We are in the camp of parents that says, "Let him sleep in his crib as long as possible, there is no rush to move a child from a crib to a toddler bed," but now that he's crawling out we are at a loss. He won't stay in a toddler bed either. We moved Luke into a regular-sized twin bed and moved the toddler bed into Jack's room, so now he has a crib and a toddler bed in there. He slept in the toddler bed for two nights while it was exciting, then he told Daddy he wanted back into the crib, so that's where he sleeps now. When he sleeps. Heh.
Just in the past month, Luke has stopped "formally" napping during his rest times, though quite frequently I'll check on him during rest time and he'll be asleep in his bed. He and Beth still have rest time in their bedrooms for about an hour and a half every day, ideally when Jack naps. They have to stay in their bedrooms and play quietly- Beth loves to draw, play with her dolls, rearrange her bedroom (no joke), make silly faces in her mirror, look at books, or play with the cat. Luke will look at books, play with his trains (he's finally getting to the age where he can actually build the tracks), play with his tool bench, or have a nap. They both have radios in their rooms with a small assortment of CDs, and they're allowed to listen to the local Christian radio station too.
This is the secret to my sanity. That hour and a half, right after lunch, is my time. Generally I don't do any chores because it's my rest time too! I work online, read, or take a nap if I'm on call for a client. Occasionally Beth and I will school during rest time if we had a busy morning or didn't get to certain subjects, and I realize that as she gets older and we have more work to do, that we'll probably have to do more during this time. But for now, I love it!
But the past few weeks have been challenging, since Jack has been fighting his naps, crawling out of his crib, and banging on the door. The gentle techniques of teaching him to stay in his bed that worked with Beth are not working with Jack, so we're just at a loss, in a state of limbo, waiting to see what the next week or two brings!
I'll be sure to post the other silly things that Jack says. It's funny to me how I don't have to teach him any of this. He's just been chilling for these past couple of years, taking it all in, listening and learning... And now I think he's just going to open up and let loose on us!
Sunday, September 23
Monday, September 10
Today's lunch was outside while we listened to cicadas, construction workers building a new house, and chirping hummingbirds. Immediately following was swinging, see-sawing, flipping, trike riding, butterfly watching, and pretending to be firefighters. My phone says it's 76 but I think its closer to lower 80s; nice in the shade but a bit warm in the sun!
Wednesday, September 5
Monday, September 3
|Monday! She was so excited!|
Ryan and I both attended public school (with the exception of one private school year for me) for our educations, and when I personally reflect on my school time I realize I never developed a passion for learning. I studied for the grade, usually made the good grades, and that was enough for me. I had friends who were homeschooled and they left good impressions on me- I never thought they were weird or antisocial or whatever other stereotypes come along with homeschoolers!
As Beth grew older and I made friends in our parish, I realized there was a huge group of homeschoolers in our area, and that there was a great support system. I started to read more about it and realized that it was such a diverse group of reasons why people decided to keep their children home to teach them. I agreed with so many reasons, and developed my own ideas of what an education should encompass.
First and foremost, I believe that as the mother of my three children, it is my job to get them to heaven, through my example and prayer. I know that I have only a few years of their lives in order to lead them to our Lord, but forming their consciences and their faith lives is my first God-given job. When I consider public schools, what I've heard and seen, I don't think that it's beneficial to their souls to be in an environment like that as little children. I think that a strong foundation- a strong faith- must be laid before I turn them out into the world!
|Tuesday: You know the boys are done when...|
Secondly, I believe that no two children learn the same. I think public schools are doing their best to get by, but in order to be efficient, they can't take the time to focus on each child the same way that I could. I'm not angry at schools or the government or whatever, I just think that since I know my child, I can provide better learning opportunities by tapping in to her own interests and talents. In addition to this, the public school we feed into has had some less-than-stellar reports...
Similarly, I believe that children should be able to play. That school shouldn't just be letters and numbers, but learning about life. I think they learn about life by playing, and that a nature hike is just as important as a lesson in history. Experiences like interacting with kids of all ages, learning manners at the library, visiting the graveyard to pray for the souls of the deceased, hiking and enjoying the beauty of the world that God created and gave to us. Sure we could do those things on the weekend, but for us they will be a part of an education. For me, education is so much more than sitting down and completing worksheets until the book is finished and she can recite math facts. I want them to learn how to learn, to be passionate about learning, and to find the things in our world that give them meaning. To see the beauty in our world, beauty that points them to God.
|Wednesday: finally a project for all three of them: scissors!|
So that being said, here's our plan for this year. Last year Beth went through a good portion of Mother of Divine Grace's kindergarten curriculum, so this year we're actually going with the first grade lesson plans of Mater Amabilis (but this is still her kindergarten year). I am changing it up a bit though.
For religion, we're using Image of God: Who Am I? because I already had it and like it just fine! We are also working our way through the old testament, one story per week, which she illustrates and narrates back to me as I write it on her illustration. We read about one saint per week, and will also use Catholic Mosaic to follow along with the liturgical year.
For math we are using A Beka kindergarten math, though I think we maybe should have ordered first grade. I have extra manipulatives to use as we want, since this program doesn't have them built in but I think learning hands-on is pretty important for Beth.
She does copywork and dictation each twice a week, and this includes writing letters to family members and penpals! We're using Alphaphonics for her phonics program, but I'm not impressed and she's not interested, so I'm up for suggestions if anyone has any. 100 Easy Lessons was great for the first 30 or so lessons (we did that 2 years ago!) but she doesn't like it anymore either.
For Literature we're reading the Blue Fairy Book, starting with Beauty and the Beast, Aesop's Fables, and Mr. Popper's Penguins. We're also using the Harp and the Laurel Wreath for poetry. We read from The Book of Virtues during our afternoon snack time, and talk about ways we can apply it to our daily lives.
I've completely ditched MA's history suggestions after I found Beautiful Feet Books, and Beth is doing Early American History. We're also going to do the suggested family geography project, so we'll be studying different parts of America and hopefully be able to visit some of those places throughout the year so we can actually go experience them. We have the family tree workbook and will be interviewing family members to complete this, starting with my nearby grandmother!
For our nature walks, I plan to go as often as I can, but it will wind up being a couple of times per month probably. We're also reading Pagoo, a story about a hermit crab, so I hope that when we're done with that we'll be able to take a trip to the beach!
We're skipping foreign language for now, though occasionally we incorporate Latin. For all of the different arts, I'm using The Story of the Orchestra to learn about music (and have an October 1 field trip planned to the orchestra!), Come Look With Me for art study, and additional various "how to draw" books that Beth has and wants. I'd love to get the Oxford First Book of Art if I can get my hands on a cheap copy! I'd love for Beth to start piano lessons, but first we'd have to have a keyboard or piano!
I have so many little additional things to add, mostly coloring pages and small crafts and projects, because that's what Beth likes to do. More importantly, I have no problem going off on a tangent if Beth is pulled to learn about something new!
I know this sounds like a lot, but it's really only two hours of our morning, four days a week! We school in the morning and have afternoon activities planned several days a week. Monday is ballet for Beth, Tuesday is gymnastics for Luke, and the other days are a combination of activities, depending on the day of the month. Beth will be involved in an elementary-aged girls group that teaches them little arts like sewing and crocheting, manners, and from what I understand, sort of what it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman. She's REALLY looking forward to this, she's been talking about it for months! I also have planned a once-a-month cooking class for her and a few friends, here at our home, where we'll be learning about kitchen etiquette and baking skills! We will also attend daily mass at least once a month (hopefully more often than that if I can get my act together), park days with other homeschooled kids, and random other events that happen throughout the year. We will not be bored at home, lack activities, or have issues with "socialization." This seems to be the current buzz word of the anti-homeschool camp, but as you can see (or if you want, take a peek at my calendar), there will be ample opportunities for interactions with other kids, boys and girls and moms and dads, of all ages!
|Thursday: a beautiful morning so we played outside and delayed the start of school for about 45 minutes. Totally worth it.|
I am super impressed if you've read through this entire monster post, but I also want to have on record what we're doing and what my plan is. :-) I am very well aware that this plan might not work out for us, and that we might need to do something else, but for now I feel like it's worked well for Beth and the boys this past week. I am flexible, and I love that I can be homeschooling affords that to us!
So if you think I'm crazy, I guess you might be right. While friends are sending their kids off to school, I'm prepping for another busy and loud day! But I hope I don't offend anyone who chooses not to homeschool, it's certainly not my goal. Ryan and I have discerned this to be the best choice for our family for so many reasons, and we plan to take it year by year, child by child. It's hard to think of what we'll be doing in four, six, or eight years from now, since I have no idea what will be happening in our lives!
Wish us luck!
Saturday, September 1
The next morning was my 30th birthday! I slept in until 9 am (what a treat!) and Ryan and I got started with our day. They had to work that morning so Ryan and I had a late breakfast at the greatest grocery store of all time- move over HEB, Wegmans is my new love! We drove to a Catholic bookstore in a nearby town because I have been trying to get to one for months, and it was my birthday so I called the shots. ;-) I found a print of Mary and Baby Jesus that I had been wanting for our schoolroom, a few books for the kids, and a couple of other little items. I really enjoyed that little trip, as silly as it sounds!
Next we drove to the Potomac River to check it out. We were going to a state park but on our way found a little free park a bit upstream, so we took our time and hiked around, sat on the rocks and talked about life, and pretended we were civil war soldiers. It's hard not to look through the unsettled woods and not imagine something like that going on, it's almost eerie, but beautiful and so different than what we're used to!
Ramona and I left the boys and went shopping. We spend a lot of time at Loft and I think that, between the two of us, we tried everything on the store! We had a fun time! I bought two new dresses and two new sweaters, though I had much more that I wanted! (Grandma and Grandpa- thank you for the new dress!) While we were there, my kiddos called to tell me happy birthday! I was sad to not have them be a part of my 30th birthday, but I also knew that this was a unique chance for Ryan and I to get away, so we talked on the phone for a bit before we said goodbye.
We met up with the guys and the kids and had dinner and drinks at a very special place, where Josh works. Of course I had a giant chocolate brownie thing- and even some of Ramona's dessert too!
That night I opened my cards from family members that we'd brought along with us and stayed up and talked. I know we were all pretty tired but it's hard to go to bed early when you're with family members you see only twice a year! So of course we stayed up too late!
On Friday I woke up early to play with my nephew, who apparently was upset over something very tragic for a 3-year-old. ;-) We played cars and read books, he is so sweet and tender-hearted!
We barbecued dinner that night and stayed up late again. :-)
|mimosas and painted toes|