Well, here I am. Three years later, writing about the same people and the same life. But I've lost the familiarity of this process, of the keyboard and the look of this blogger.com layout. Does anyone still ready these blogs? Let's see.
I won't attempt to play catchup. You know the players already, after all. So let's jump back in and see if I remember how to write.
Last week Miss Caeli Rose got her ears pierced! She has been begging for months! Last year I told her she could get her ears pierced when she made her First Holy Communion, but she countered that she wants to have them pierced ON that day- which seemed a fair argument to me. Somehow we came to agree that it would be after her 7th birthday but before her FHC, which she took as pretty much literally after her 7th birthday. The day after her birthday, she began to ask me multiple times per day, "When will you take me to get my ears pierced?" "I don't know, pretty soon." "Is that for a long time?" "I don't know, probably not too long from now." Repeat this conversation 5 times per day and you'll understand why I caved less than a week after her birthday!
I called Claire's and asked if they were still doing ear piercing, and she said yes as long as Caeli work a mask. This upset Caeli and I thought for a split second she'd change her mind, when she buried her head in my stomach and became immediately shy. I told her she could refuse and we could find another place, but she called in her courage and chose to wear it for the three minutes of the process. The girl didn't flinch! She couldn't believe it didn't hurt, and she was SO proud of herself!
I have tried to examine why I was putting off her ear piercing. It's something I am completely okay with- I don't feel like it's made her too old too quickly or anything. I know she will take care of them because she is already such a ridiculously responsible child!
So often I find myself telling my children, "Not now," but not necessarily because I don't have time or don't want to do what they ask. I am pondering the thought that I am unintentionally holding something over their heads, so to speak, by keeping them waiting on my affirmative. Or perhaps I feel bothered that they should need me. I have to remind myself (and this is embarrassing to admit), that I want the best for these sweet creatures, I want them filled with joy and livelihood and good attitudes because they've received something they want. So why would I keep that from them, or delay it, just a little longer?
I want to be a YES mom again, one who gladly and freely bestows gifts instead of withholding for no reason at all. Then I counter-argue myself that they NEED to learn how to wait on good things, because that's also an important life lesson, but the flip side of that is that in our family of 7 people there will be a million opportunities to learn patience before they fly away from my nest. While they're here I want them able to come to me, and I'm afraid my silly "Not right nows" will keep them, eventually, from coming to me. And does our Lord withhold grace from us when we ask?
So that morning when she asked me, "Can we get my ears pierced today?" I thought- why not today? I chose to say yes, to make the 30-second phone call, to let Bethany skip her lunch chores, and to take my daughters to Claires to share the coming-of-age experience together. Caeli got her ears pierced, and I got a lesson on how to be a yes Mama again.