I am on the verge of... quitting Facebook. I've been a member since it came out in 2005, and have taken occasional breaks but I am really feeling called to just throw in the towel all together. So often it leads to stress or feeling down about myself, and is usually such a huge distraction that I can't see that the benefits outweigh the negatives.
There are certainly lots of benefits- I have made friends (real and online friends) whose friendships have blessed me! I would miss that. But another part of me thinks that I need to nourish the friendships I have and get out of my comfort zone to make new friendships... And as nice as online friendships are, they are not a replacement for a flesh-and-blood-sitting-across-the-table-from-me sort of friend.
Ahh, but what about the professional aspect of it... I used to maintain a business page for my doula business, but since I've been pregnant and on "maternity leave" I've neglected it...And I don't miss it! I would miss a bit of community amongst other doulas in my area- but again, that's something I would need to maintain offline.
I don't tend to get caught up in "mommy wars," but I do feel weighed down sometimes. And I will openly admit that I am desperate for close friendships. Only recently have I realized that my introversion has left me in a sometimes very lonely place. And I think the solution to that is not in Facebook, but in having to step out and just do something about it. I never kept count of "friends" on Facebook; I am actually pretty consistent about keeping my friend list limited to people I would actually be willing to hang out with in real life. But making friends intimidates me- I get nervous just thinking about it- but another part of me thinks "LET'S DO THIS!" I think perhaps I'm hiding a little bit. Behind the security of Facebook.
Just the other day I decided to take the first step to ditching Facebook and I removed the app from my phone. You know what? I held my phone a lot less that day, and every day since then. And that's a major goal of mine- to not be staring at a screen, distracted and pulled away by someone else who isn't even actually in the room with me! And lately all I can think about is the example I'm setting for my children in the way I speak, dress, and in what I do.
I know it's not all bad! There are certainly things I would miss. For example, if a major sporting event happened, I could usually get enough information about it to impress Ryan when he got home from work. ;-) Since we don't have cable and I don't follow major new networks, I would definitely miss breaking news announcements. Pregnancy announcements from friends, other big life events... And now I'm leaning toward not quitting!
You're probably thinking I should just keep it up in moderation, right? That's just so hard for me! I have very little self-control!
I do know that my goals are to not hold my phone as much (I do have to keep it with me constantly when I'm on call, but at least I don't have to be handling it), to be less distracted by less-important things, and to make new friends and reach out more to the ones I have.
I absolutely hate the feeling of reading something that affects my mood for several hours. I also hate a false sense of belonging.
So I have lots of things to consider and pray about. I'd like to know if anyone has quit Facebook and never looked back?